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Read this out loud every morning for 28 days and see what may happen in your life. DAILY AFFIRMATION
Here is an excellent affirmation written by Zig Ziglar. well known motivational speaker and author. "I,_______...am a person with integrity, a great attitude, and specific goals. I have a high energy level, am enthusiastic, and take pride in my appearance and what I do. I have a sense of humor, lots of faith, wisdom, and the vision and courage to use my talents effectively.  I have character, and am a smart, talented person. My beliefs are strong, and I have a healthy self-image, a passion for what is right, and a solid hope for the future. I am an honest, sincere, and hard-working. I am tough, but fair and sensitive. I am disciplined, motivated, and focused. I am a good listener and am very patient. I am an encourager, a good-finder, and a forgiving person. I am caring, unselfish, and committed to doing the right thing. I am family oriented, open minded, and an excellent communicator. I am a student, a teacher, and a self starter. I am obedient, loyal, responsible, and dependable. I have a servant's heart, am ambitious and a team player. I am personable, optimistic and organized. I am consistent, considerate, and resourceful. I am intelligent, competent, persistent and creative. I am health conscious, balanced and clean. I am flexible, punctual and thrifty. I am an honorable person who is truly grateful for the opportunity life has given me. These are the qualities of the winner I WAS BORN TO BE, and I fully intend to develop these marvelous qualities with which I have been entrusted by God. Tonight I am going to sleep wonderfully well. I will dream powerful, positive dreams. I will awaken energized and refreshed, and tomorrow's going to be magnificent. God, my family and my true friends love me no matter what!" Permission by Zig Ziglar through Dr. Heller
WHEN a man desires a thing too much, he at once becomes ill at ease. A proud and avaricious man never rests, whereas he who is poor and humble of heart lives in a world of peace. An unmortified man is quickly tempted and overcome in small, trifling evils; his spirit is weak, in a measure carnal and inclined to sensual things; he can hardly abstain from earthly desires. Hence it makes him sad to forego them; he is quick to anger if reproved. Yet if he satisfies his desires, remorse of conscience overwhelms him because he followed his passions and they did not lead to the peace he sought. True peace of heart, then, is found in resisting passions, not in satisfying them. There is no peace in the carnal man, in the man given to vain attractions, but there is peace in the fervent and spiritual man.
Step 8 - I make a list of persons that I have harmed and become willing to make amends to them all ï‚· How have you hurt yourself by practicing your addiction? ï‚· What important relationships did you destroy or damage because of your addictive behaviors?ï‚· How much time and energy have you lost from your addictive behaviors? What do you think you would have done or become had it not been for your addictive behaviors?ï‚· Make a list of all those that you have possibly harmed by your addictive behaviors. List the effect on them as individuals and on your relationship.ï‚· Take the list of people that you have harmed and make a list of possible amends for each one of them.ï‚· From the list of possible amends, choose the ones that seem most
appropriate, and mark them according to level of difficulty.ï‚· What consequences do you fear in making amends? What is the worst thing that can happen? What is the best thing that can happen? What is likely to happen?ï‚· Do you feel angry or resentful towards any people on your amends list? If so, write them a letter of anger, but don't send it to them. Describe here any other ways that you have used to get rid of the anger and resentment towards anyone on your list.ï‚· Describe any dreams that relate to making amends to others.
Step 7 - I humbly ask God to remove my shortcomings ï‚· What defects will be most difficult to give up? In what order to you plan to give them up? ï‚· What kind of situations, stressors or pressures cause you to regress back into your defects of character? What can you do to lessen the likelihood of that stress occurring? ï‚· Where do you feel most supported and helped in your strivings for
ï‚· What makes you lose hope? Can you avoid such situations? If so, then how? ï‚· What (person, situation, event, thought) restores your hope? Is there a way to maximize those influences? If so, then how? ï‚· What would you like to recapture in your life? ï‚· Describe in detail what you think that your life will be like with your defects of character removed from you. ï‚· What are you grateful for? ï‚· When do you think that life has been especially good for you? When did you have the greatest joy? ï‚· Describe your typical day's activities in terms of how much time you spend on each type of activity. ï‚· Describe your typical day's activities if you knew that you had only one year to live. ï‚· Have you made the correct decisions about how to spend time with loved ones, in solitude and with your discretionary time? If not, how would you like to change it? ï‚· What would you do if you were granted three wishes? ï‚· What do you think that you can do to leave the world a better place and accomplish your mission in life?
Step 6 - I become entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character ï‚· Do you have any fairy tales or myths that you feel a special affinity with? Why? ï‚· Describe situations and events where you have been full of pride. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? ï‚· Describe the kind of activities do you really enjoy (of course, NOT your addictive behavior).
ï‚· What are some healthy eating or exercise habits that you could start? ï‚· What are some unhealthy eating habits that you could give up? ï‚· Describe some secret GOOD deeds that you have done or would like to do. ï‚· Describe situations and events where you have been greedy, overly needy or materialistic. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to give these attitudes over to the care of God? ï‚· Describe situations and events where you have given in to lust without regard for others or any morality. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to give these lustful feelings over to the power of God? ï‚· Describe situations and events where you have been dishonest. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to depend upon God to keep you from dishonesty? ï‚· Describe situations and events where you have given into excessive eating, drinking, shopping or covetousness. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to let God take control of these behaviors and attitudes?
ï‚· Describe situations and events where you have been very envious or jealous of others. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are your ready to turn these situations over to God? ï‚· Describe situations and events where you have avoided responsibility for your actions or lack of actions. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? Are you ready to allow God to help you take responsibility for your actions? ï‚· List your major defects of character. ï‚· What do you plan to do when these major defects of character begin to become evident? List each defect individually along with the proposed preventative behavior and how you will allow God to help you in your battle against these defects.
Step 5 - I admit to God, to myself and to another human being the exact nature of my wrongs ï‚· After working through the fourth step questions, what do you realize about your limitations and capabilities? ï‚· Describe any person who has helped you to see yourself more clearly and objectively in your process of recovery and of life. ï‚· What qualities would you like to have in a sponsor? How do the people in the list of possible sponsors measure up to these criteria? ï‚· Write down the names of the most trustworthy people that you know. Do you think that they would be willing or interested in being a sponsor for you? ï‚· Describe your feelings and expectations about sharing your fifth step with your sponsor. ï‚· List people that you can think of that you might share your story
choice to work your 5th step with. Person Safe, Risky or Bad choice ï‚· Describe who you have chosen to be your sponsor and how theyr eacted when you approached them. ï‚· Describe what it was like in sharing the fifth step. How did you feel before, after and during the process? Are you glad that you have done this? ï‚· Describe any celebrations or activities that you have done in honor of completing the fifth step.
Step 4 - I make a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself ï‚· Have you had any broken relationships? If so, describe them and how they hurt others or yourself. Describe any grudges, anger or resentment that you have over these relationships. ï‚· Have you ever felt self-righteous? Explain when and the circumstances. Was this justified? Elaborate. ï‚· What events or triggers have caused you to begin your addictive behaviors in the past? Describe situations, feelings, events, food or people that you seem to be a part of your life just before or during your addictive behaviors. ï‚· Have you ever held a grudge? Did you try to get revenge? If so, explain the situation and how it played out, including whether or not someone else was hurt. ï‚· Describe times that you have been oversensitive. Did this ever damage your relationship with others, or were you just trying to keep your own boundaries? ï‚· Describe the faults that you most detest in others. Do you have any of these traits yourself? ï‚· Put a checkmark beside any of the following traits that you despise in others. Also check whether you see these traits in yourself. Traits that I Despise in Others Trait In Others In Myself Trait In Others In Myself Selfishness Greedy Cowardice Snobbish Dishonesty Sarcastic Fearfulness Hypercritical Controlling Gossip Manipulative Tightwad Intimidating Harsh Power-hungry Unforgiving Possessive Verbally abusive Prejudiced Physically abusive Overly dependent Sexually abusive Procrastinating Impatient Judgmental Adulterous Preoccupied Sneakiness Lying Ungrateful Cheating Cynical Intolerant Bitter Self-Pitying Full of Rage Jealous Envious Insecure ï‚· Have you failed to do things that you KNOW that you should have done? If so, then explain in detail. ï‚· What are your fears? How have they caused you difficulty in your life? ï‚· Describe your relationship with your friends, co-workers or neighbors. Is there something that you wish that you could do over again? If so, explain in detail. ï‚· Describe your relationships with your family of origin. Do you have conflicts with any siblings or with your parents? Are you avoiding these matters in your family? ï‚· Describe the earliest memories of your life. Did you share a similar personality with those in your family or were they very different than you? Do you think that these similarities o differences caused problems in your life? If so, explain. ï‚· If you were to describe your family's major themes, what would they be? ï‚· Describe your relationships with your nuclear family (spouse and children) if that is different now from your family of origin. Is there anything that you wish that you could erase from this part of your life? ï‚· Describe in detail any major experiences in your life that you believe changed your life forever afterwards (good or bad). ï‚· What decisions have you made in your life that made a significant impact on your life? How did you go about making those decisions? ï‚· How much of your life have you used up already? If you drew a time line of your life, where would you be now? ï‚· Put your major experiences and major decisions on a timeline. Is there a pattern of any kind? ï‚· What are you most ashamed of in your life? ï‚· Do you see any patterns in your addictive behaviors? If so, explain them in detail. ï‚· What have you done to cover and conceal your addictive behaviors? What other deceptions did this lead to? ï‚· What kind of personality do you exhibit at home? At school? At work? When no-one is around? ï‚· What is so shameful in your life that you would not want to tell anyone? Who would you hurt if you told this? ï‚· Write a summary of the highlights of your fourth step. ï‚· How would you like to share your fourth step summary? What details would you like to make sure that are known? Write these details down in your summary and prepare the summary for presentation in your fifth step. ï‚· Describe anycelebrations or honoring activities that you hae done to honor the completion of your 4 th step.
Step 3 - I make a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understand God ï‚· What are your greatest fears about giving up control over your life to God as you understand God? ï‚· What things, people or circumstances have you tried to control in the past and how has that turned out? Do you think that God will be able to handle your life better than you have? ï‚· How do you feel in general about turning your life over to God? ï‚· In what ways will you keep up the process of turning your life over to God? Possibilities include going to religious services, 12 Step meetings, meeting with others in recovery, writing a journal, service to others, meditation, reading, physical exercise, contacting your sponsor or engaging in therapy. ï‚· How would you answer the question "Who am I"? ï‚· How would you answer the question "Who is God"? In other words, describe God as you understand God. ï‚· Describe who or what you trust and to what degree. ï‚· In what do you find meaning now or think that you can find meaning in the future?
ï‚· How do you think that you should live your life after giving your life over to the care of God as you understand God? What changes do you expect to make and how will this look in specific detail? ï‚· How do you plan to celebrate or honor this step of turning your life over to the care of God? ï‚· Describe any celebration or honoring activity that you have actually made in turning your life over to the care of God.
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